Chrissy Metz relates her abusive and underprivileged childhood and how hard work and perseverance made her into the inspirational figure and television superstar she is today.

“Honeybees are meaningful to me because technically they’re not supposed to be able to fly. We know they do, but in the 1930s French scientists ‘proved’ they couldn’t. Their reasoning was that it was aerodynamically impossible because honeybees’ wings are too small to support the weight of their bodies. … I get that. I’m not supposed to be able to fly either.” pg 6, ebook

Chrissy’s parents divorced when she was young and her mother worked multiple jobs to support her children. They lived in a trailer park for a time in Florida.

“I know now that when families are in crisis, kids blame themselves, and kids also take on adult burdens. Which is why it is important that I say something else: Arredondo Farms is still there and I won’t say a single bad thing about it. People look down on people who grow up in trailer parks.” pg 25

Things became a bit easier when her mother married Chrissy’s stepfather (she calls him ‘Trigger’), but then he began systematically abusing Chrissy.

“I don’t remember why Trigger hit me the first time. I know he thought I’d had it coming for a while. I bet I was too loud putting away the dishes. Or I didn’t put his Coca-Cola in the fridge and he wanted a cold Coke. That would usually do it.” pg 28, ebook

Somehow, she survives to not only succeed in the business of her dreams, but to thrive. It wasn’t easy. She honestly documents her struggles, both mentally and physically. She continues to have relationship troubles. But Chrissy never lets it dim her optimism that things can get better and that she can improve, no matter where she finds herself.

Throughout the memoir, she gives tips and life advice that she calls “Bee Mindful” lessons — referring back to her metaphor of how the honeybee can fly even though it seems aerodynamically impossible.

“So many people, including myself, talk at each other but don’t listen. To ourselves or to other people. Believe in actively listening to yourself. Take time to have a conversation with yourself every now and again. … So often we’re on autopilot and we slip into addictive behaviors to avoid listening to ourselves. We eat, or drink, or, yes, check our phones — anything to avoid hearing what we truly need to say.” pg 57, ebook

The astonishing part of this memoir, to me, is simply how often Chrissy is judged and found wanting because of her appearance. How long are we, as a society, going to accept the objectification of women’s bodies and believe that it’s ok? I thought we addressed that issue in the last century, but, from the way this beautiful and strong woman has been treated her entire life, it is obvious that we haven’t gotten very far.

I found Chrissy Metz to be inspiring before I read her memoir. Now, I feel like she’s a literal hero for anyone who simply wants to live life as they are and not accept anyone else’s standards for what beautiful, strong and successful is. And she manages to be kind and humble while doing it.

Highly recommended for any readers who like inspiring memoirs — this one gets all the stars.

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